A lot of us, if not all of us, are stuck in self Isolation due to the current pandemic, which sorta makes everyday of our current lives both sad and on a whole new level of boredom.
But while you're sitting at home and trying to suck up to your quarantined self, you might be getting a lot of thoughts which evidently leads to different wants.
Today, I'm not gonna be telling you about the virus that isn't gonna end the world, because trust me on this, the world has faced worst pandemics and it has overcome them. This too, shall pass.
The reason behind today's article is that, some people, both young, adult, and old, do not really know what to do with their lives. Don't get me wrong, I didn't say everybody. I said some people.
I know there are smart people out there who said they're going to be lawyers when they grow up, and that's what they actually become.
Some say they want to play football when they grow up, and a few years later, it works out and then they're right there at the top.
But let's face it, life isn't like that for everyone of us. Even I wanted to play the UEFA champions league when I was little. But as I grew up, I realized that life doesn't work that way, and you just don't get what you want.
A lot of successful people out there often exhort the old "Work hard and never give up" speech to make you push harder, try harder, all that inspiring crap. But no matter how hard you try, if it's not meant to be, it won't be.
I received a few emails from my subscribers recently, I think the isolation is kinda making some people sit down and really think hard about their lives.
Most of these emails were simply asking me the same question over and over: "I'm good at a lot of things, but I still don't know what to do with my life. What do I do?"
I recall over 19 of such emails asking the same similar question.
So rather than reply each and everyone of them and asking awkward questions, I decided to write down an article that may just answer the question.
WHAT IS MY LIFE'S PURPOSE AND HOW DO I FIND IT?
First of all, almost, if not every adult, goes through this. Even I have changed career aspirations over the years. But it's a struggle. Some people are over 30-40 and still have no idea what to do with their lives.
But here's the thing. We exist in this world to do things, and some of these things are important, while some are not. The important ones give our entire lives meaning. The unimportant ones, well, we basically just kill time with it.
So I believe some of these people are asking the wrong question.
Instead of asking, "What should I do with my life?" Or "What is my life's purpose?" What they're actually asking and how they should be asking it is, "What can I do with my time that is important?"
So, let's have a chat, you and me. In order to answer these questions, allow me to affirm to you that it doesn't matter what you do, whether you're a damn good lawyer, the best footballer in the world, or whatever.
And that is, we're all going to die.
One day. All of us. That faithful day when you'll no longer feel your body and you won't care about what you did or what you didn't do. You're gone, that's it. Always remember that, because it's the first step to finding your life's purpose.
Discover What You're Passionate About
When I was little, I used to write down things, not because I wanted anyone to read it or impress my parents, but for the sheer joy of it. I suppose I've had a passion for writing long before now.
But for some reason, I stopped. I don't really remember why, but read on, this isn't exactly about my passion for writing.
There were other things I was good at, and one of them is drawing. Seriously, don't laugh, I'm not kidding. I use to draw really well, I could sit for hours and draw something really cool.
I'd even go to my dad's chambers, where he had this huge blackboard and I would draw up this really cool looking Ben 10 image with a chalk and hope to impress my dad and anyone who walks in.
Next thing I know, someone has wiped it off the board. I'd draw something else the next day and they'd wipe it off again. Sometimes my dad sees it, and most times he doesn't.
Also, I loved playing football as a child as well. I was good at it, I had so much fun doing it. I even wanted to go pro. And again, I stopped. Due to some restrictions and setbacks.
As humans, we all have a tendency to lose touch with what we loved as a child or as an early teenage kid. We grew up being taught that the only reason to do something is if we were going be somehow rewarded for it.
And due to the inevitable difficulties in life, we all have become somehow manipulated with that mindset. We rarely do things for ourselves anymore, we just do things to get money.
It was when I turned 18 years old that I rediscovered how much I loved writing. And from there I realized how much I loved reading books. Something I did as a child just for fun.
But here's the interesting part, If my 10 year old self asked my 18 year old self, "Why don't you draw anymore?" or "Why don't you write anymore?" And I replied, "Because I'm not good at it," or "because nobody would even read what I write, or "because nobody would buy what I draw," or "because you can't make money doing that."
Not only would I have been completely wrong and highly negative, but that 10 year old boy would probably start crying.
That 10 year old boy didn’t care about Google traffic, SEO, social media popularity or book publishing. He just wanted to play and have fun. And frankly, that’s where passion always begins, with a sense of play.
If you don't know what to do with your life, go back to your little self. And find out what that little self loved doing the most.
Because a lot of successful people today, mostly chased what they loved doing right from when they were little and never stopped or switched to being something else.
So here's my question for you. WHAT IS TRUE ABOUT YOU TODAY, THAT WOULD MAKE YOUR LITTLE SELF CRY?
WHAT DID YOU STOP DOING TODAY, THAT IF YOU TOLD YOUR LITTLE SELF YOU STOPPED DOING THAT THING, HE/SHE WOULD CRY.
WHAT IS THAT?
I'm gonna let you ponder on that question for a while as it is the first step we'll take on finding your life purpose. You can leave your answers in the comment box or send them to my email.
Conclusion
Remember not to let the possible weeks or months of isolation be for nothing. Indeed you are unable to control how long you’ll need to engage in social distancing, lockdown, but you can control if you spend that time productively.
The version of you who steps out of lockdown at some future date can be and has to be better than the version that entered it, if you make an effort.
Learn a skill, read empowering and informative books, read my blog, discover new things and learn. That's how you grow.
Stay home and stay safe.
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